The 10 Things You Can Do Right Now to Elevate Your Love Life

The 10 things You Can Do Right Now To Elevate Your Love Life

Reposted from: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/10-things-you-can-do-right-now-elevate-your-love-life-appelbaum

Jenny Appelbaum, Founder and Matchmaker, Jenny Apple Matchmaking

Many people decide they want to hire us as their professional love headhunters and want our services after meeting one of our married or happy couples or they meet us at an event or find us online, and then immediately demand that we find them exactly the type of man or woman they have always dreamt of being with. I get it- that is what we do! However, prior to this and even if you never step foot inside a matchmaker’s office, read my recommended expert advice + list of the top 10 things you can do right now to elevate your love life. Please send us feedback and let me know what you agree with and what you would add. <3

10 Things You Can Do Right Now To Elevate Your Love Life

1. Show up

2. Get Real

3. Let go of Control

4. Focus on what matters in a partner

5. Listen to how you feel

6. Enjoy your life

7. Give Back

8. Find the Beauty in others

9. Treat people well

10. Take Accountability for yourself

Show Up

This is both in the physical and figurative sense. Showing up means being an active listener when someone is speaking to you. It means texting someone back within the next few hours even if it is just to tell him or her when you need to respond later or you are busy. It means not flaking on a date, not letting fear or negative thoughts run your life, and instead showing up for yourself and for others. Have integrity with your words and act in a manner that respects yourself and others. Be vulnerable. Show up.

Get Real

Get real with your expectations. If you are a good person who is kind, positive, loving, generally healthy minded and takes care of yourself, you can and should expect the same in others. But don’t fool yourself into thinking that you should either be with a mirror image of yourself or with someone who only exists as a construct in your mind. A real partner will look and sound different than your dream partner.

A real person will challenge you, frustrate you, and annoy you. But they will also learn to love you if you are able to look beyond yourself